Links to Additional Resources
There are numerous websites, support groups and online groups that may be of value to men in mixed orientation relationships. We list them here for the sole purpose of helping men in their journey. This is not an endorsement of any one group or site, but rather, a list of resources for men to explore:
In Washington, D.C. Whitman-Walker Health has a men's coming out peer support group which is offered two to three times per year. It is a "10-week confidential discussion group for men exploring their interest in other men."
A great resource in Washington D.C is The DC Center. The mission of "The DC LGBT Center educates, empowers, celebrates, and connects the lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender communities.To fulfill our mission, we focus on four core areas: health and wellness, arts & culture, social & support services, and advocacy and community building." They have great links to other health and wellness resources in the Washington, D.C. area.
GAMMA Yahoo Group. GAMMA in the National Capital Region maintains a confidential Yahoo group called GAMMAinDC for men anywhere in the world to meet and hold confidential discussions. Men can request to join the group here.
Husbands Out to Wives is an on-line membership only support group for gay and bisexual men who are married to women and are out to (or working toward coming out to) their wives. Like GAMMA, HOW does not give advice but relates through men's personal experiences. Also like GAMMA, HOW does not have one path a man should follow and is welcoming of the different choices about marriage men can make. HOW's homepage for their listserve is: http://groups.queernet.org/sympa/info/how
Making Mixed Orientation Marriages Work is an on-line membership only support group for men and women who are in mixed orientation marriages. Straight spouses who are married to gays or bisexuals and also the married gays and bisexuals themselves. MMOMW is a Yahoo Group that can be found at: https://groups.yahoo.com/neo/groups/MMOMW/info. You will need a Yahoo email account to access Yahoo Groups and must request access to this private group.
Alternate Paths is a website that provides information about Mixed Orientation Marriages – specifically how to stay together and make them work. They can be found at: http://alternatepaths.net/.
HUGS is an acronym for Hope-Understanding-Growth-Support. The HUGS_Couples is a Yahoo Group for couples of mixed sexual orientation who are working to keep their relationship strong and growing. It provides a positive environment where these couples can EXPRESS their concerns, SHARE their successes, and GIVE and RECEIVE support and encouragement. They can be found at: https://groups.yahoo.com/neo/groups/hugs_couples2/info
Alternate Path is a Yahoo Group for women seeking help with finding alternative solutions to divorcing their Bi/Gay husband. This group wants to provide positive discussions that will help wives adjust to the news that their husband is gay/bi. They can be found at: https://groups.yahoo.com/neo/groups/alternatepath/info
Center Bi Community | Genderqueer DC is intended for those who identify as bi, pan, fluid, or queer - who are seeking bi-friendly support and social events for meeting others like them. This group serves Northern VA, DC, MD. They can be found at: http://www.meetup.com/CenterBiNet/