Valentines Day or Loving Another Man

Holidays like Valentines Day can be especially challenging.  As a man explores his attraction to men after often many years with a woman, what does it mean to fine a loving, intimate relationship.  We met the week after Valentines Day 2016.  Here are some of the topics we discussed:

• What does it mean to truly care for and love another man?
  
• What does intimacy with a man mean to you? 
• Where does internalized homophobia or shame come into the picture of how you see love? 
• Do you put homosexuality in a narrow box called sex or can you envision homosexuality encompassing deep love for another man of the same gender? 
• How does how you see homosexuality color how you see falling in love with a man? 
• Have you ever had a deeply spiritual and loving relationship with another man?  
• What stops you from having love in your life today? 
• What would you have to change about how you see the world; how you see being gay or bisexual; and how you see the gay community, to find loving intimate partner relationship? 
• How do stereotypes about being gay that you grew up with keep you from getting what you want in your life today? 
• How do you feel about the idea of calling other men your husband?